In July 2010, the new legal requirement for all midwives to have liability insurance in order to be registered, made it very difficult to have a midwife attend a homebirth in Australia. After initially being upset about the government’s decision, my wife and i took back our power and decided to have our daughter, unassisted, at home.
This opened up new possibilities in our thinking, and brought different kinds of information to our attention. Free Birth, Orgasmic Birth, the role of Oxytocin, and much more. We started researching and learned about the actual advantages of giving birth to a baby only in the loving presence of its parents. This was crucial to our learning and our new understanding of the incredible experience childbirth could be if we let nature take its course.
One of the people we came across during our research was Laura Shanley. She gave birth to four children, all of whom were all born at home without the help of doctors or midwives.
Birthing doesn’t have to mean suffering, it doesn’t have to be frightening, or an annoying interruption to our well-structured life. It can be an initiation into adulthood, into another exciting stage of our lives. It can be a joyful and uplifting, even ecstatic experience…without drugs and with a fully conscious mind.
Our own experience with Unassisted Homebirth
For Paula, the experience wasn’t without pain. But the pain she felt didn’t overwhelm her. She understood that it was part of the driving force behind childbirth. This knowledge helped us stay in the moment and get into the same space, in slowly increasing waves. Like in a trance, we forgot about the world around us, both of our focus on opening up, letting go, on trust, and love. Brought up to those heights, the actual birth simply felt like a small step along the way. Driven by instinct, prepared to accept anything that would happen, trusting into the inner guide, common sense, and the knowledge we had gathered from other people’s experiences. The baby came out with little help, and mother and baby where both in a state of relaxation. Watching our birth video again the next day, we were surprised at how calmly Noah was born. And we laughed at how we sounded like we were on a complete high after the birth. This must have been due to the wonderful Oxytocin that filled the air that night. We spoke ecstatically, irrationally, and very emotionally. High on our bodies’ own natural endorphins.
For us, the new law turned out to be the best thing that could have happened to us. And what we learned from others during our research, helped us to have the most wonderful birth experience.
How about you? Have you had an unassisted homebirth? Would you consider having one? What do you think about the situation of the midwives in Australia? Please leave your comments below.